when someone is not responding to your needs

Hi blog family!
I know you are glad to be back at school. First- it is a great escape from group home life or a chaotic home!!
second-this is a chance to meet all types of new friends.
third-this is a chance to start over and try harder for better grades--or more stable grades and show you are serious about your schooling!!!

I wanted to talk to you about haters, negative people, nay sayers...etc.. call them what you want but it happens--there will be times when you are being kind and doing what you need to and a teacher or student just doesn't like you.
when this happens I want you to remember "this too shall pass"!!
If you find you don't like your teacher or they are always putting you on blast infront of the class or some kid is hating on you and calling you out to show off---IGNORE the student--or confront them with an adult present...

but for the mean teacher-- tell them how you think your being treated first in a nice calm voice or a letter, if that don't work---I suggest IF they are still really mean and have NO reason, (you wasn't throwing spitballs in class, talking over the teacher, making jokes, not finishing your work or not coming to class on time)...have a meeting with your guidance counselor and express how you feel, actually write a letter to the school and give it to your counselor, (this way you make a paper trail)...that is proof later, showing that you tried your best to let your teacher know how you felt or you let them know a kid was picking on you...then if something serious comes up....you have proof that you tried to get help first BEFORE you resulted to self defense or bad behavior..(which you are never to do...I told you before you are human and you were made with a mouth to speak----use it--not your hands---ever!!! no one is worth fighting for unless you are being beat down...(that's another story of self defense but you get the point)--use your words to talk not your hands!!
once you write down what you feel or why you think the teacher is singling you out or what a kid is doing wrong to you--
have the meeting with your counselor and suggest the principle sits in, (always have someone of authority sit down with you in these talks because sometimes people misuse what you say and lie---if more than two people are there it is likely to have 3 sides of the story, yours there's and the real one!!
also see if a counselor from your group home can attend if it is serious---you need someone to advocate for you, (stand up for you).
I find that when teachers are mean, there are many reasons: 
they are ignorant--
not well traveled, 
clueless on life and how to treat others with respect because they had none in their home or
 they hate their lives or
 they are prejudice, (never been around poor people, people outside there race) or 
they just want to stroke there ego and be in control....
Do your work in class, listen---no one can deny a kid help if they are being respectful and doing there part!!
You don't care about all that!--- (the teachers issues)..
 those are his or her problems not yours--you are there to learn and if they can't teach you, you need to be put in another class that can do the job!!! Once you had a talk with teacher, then a meeting with teacher principle and no one is helping you still---time to talk to your counselor at home and have them sit in...you have to have a team of support (counselor, therapist, another teacher etc..) they will help you show the other mean person that you are not the one to pick on!!! use your support and never stop until you get the help you need.!!! It is not what you say, but how you say it!!!
As far as kids being mean:
 If you are scared--tell someone, if it's not that scarey and you can face the kid, ask him or her oneday alone why they choose to spend there time bothering you and let them know you are here to learn and have no time for nonsense. I know it sounds corney but hey, you got to face your biggest fears sometimes head on!! I always go for the leader when I am trying to get rid of a bully, find out what there fears are or weakness find out what they like and have a one on one talk with them letting them know you are not the one and you will ignore them until they show you some respect..!! I have been your age---faced bullys, negative people, (still am at my age!!) it does not stop because your an adult it stops because you don't allow it!!! You are in charge remember??
 I don't allow bullys or negative people in my cypher..
.Life has enough challenges without you making friends with or being in a class with people who suck all of your good energy---
learn to stand up for yourself, without getting hurt or being disrespectful!! 

When people are not responding to your needs it is because you are not making yourself clear on your needs or they are disrespectful of others, therefore treating anyone anyway...not acceptable!!!

You are in charge of your life 99% (1% because you are a minor) lol.....
  you decide how you want people to treat you, give them the rules by not allowing garbage!!
No one can hurt you but you and by now you know that the universe needs you because you are a winner, a star waiting to shine!!
You can always hit me with questions--keep smiling no matter what is going on in your life--let your smile make someones day! At the end of the day---laugh, learn to laugh and blow it, (anything in life) all off, it's not that serious if you are alive!!!!!xo Tanya