Relationships & Foster care

Hi blog family- I'm back!

Relationships & foster care. 

It is hard to have any-when you have no good example to choose from. 

 So if you are not sure how to pick a good mate or friend-stop picking the bad ones- the one who has all the drama, gossip, negative words, gangbangers, dealers, cutting class-u know! 

If nothing else, you know that ANY relationship should consist of two people that respect, admire and love each other for whom they are-never trying to change them or mold them, accepting them with flaws (as long as it is not drama or you doing all the work).. both parties should get something out of each other that makes them do better, love harder and want to be greater! Your true friend will support you and tell you what is right-not guide you wrong!

Don't settle for crazy, lazy, drama friends and mates- You are KINGS and QUEENS & should surround yourself only with people who think and do at their highest level.

life is short-only surround yourself with people that love you and have your best interest at heart IF there is any hint of jealousy, envy, hatred, mean spiritness- ABANDON SHIP!! God put plenty of people on the earth for you- its up to you to find them! 

You are loved, and the universe needs you to get yourself together so that you may help the other 500,000 kids in foster care!! teach one-reach one

xo Tanya

how do you pick your friends?

Hi blog family, hope you are well. Today is friday, get out after school, ride your bike, walk, see a movie or get togeather with your friends and play checkers..any game that keeps your mind sharp.

I wanted to know how do you pick your friends? At this age you usually take what you can get so whoever is friendly....that's it.. I want you to start being a little  more selective, yea, I know your young but you got to start now so that by the time you get grown, you selected such good friends they have helped you grow as a persona and togeather you complement each other's life!

When choosing a friend:
pick someone who is not violent
does not steal, lie or cheat
likes adventure that is not harmful to themselves, you or others
has a future plan for themselves....dreams of being something or a goal to get a desent job that allows them to be on their own
funny, got to have a friend that knows how to laugh at themselves ...and you when your being silly or just need someone to bring you down from anger..with a laugh..
cares about you and your well being...they don't let you take the fall for them when they get in trouble, they won't allow you to do drugs or be around dangerous people places or things...they are always looking out for your best interest, not their own or using you to achieve a bad deed...

choose your friends carefully, you are judged by the company you keep and remember I told you: "if you don't make a plan, the universe will make one for you" (that means plan your goals, future, family relationships and yes, your friends!! xo Tanya

Processing information ie....talking

Hi Blog family!

I hope you got up today thanking your maker for another beautiful day, remember each day you are alive, breathing and able to walk, talk and or think....is a great day, NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS!
I wanted to tell you sometimes if I talk about things that make you sad or mad i want you to talk about it with your therapist, social worker, teacher, friend or counselor!
FIGHTING IS NEVER AN OPTION!!
 Because why you say??
 4 reasons!!
 YOU ARE NOT an animal, (REMEMBER:they can't talk and have to mark there territory or defend themselves by proving they are the strongest="fighting")
 YOU are human, and you can talk about how you feel!!!! 
You were created to use your mind!!! 
You are brilliant!!!
Sometimes talking about things like today can bring back memories that may or may not be good and I want you to learn at your young age, how to: "process" information. 
This means that you "talk" about whatever it is that has happend today or yesterday, that effected your life.
Don't feel bad if you reacted in the past by NOT talking about things and keeping them inside.
 I don't want you to do that because it creates anger, hate, hurt, revenge seeking or just plain bad feelings!
You are too young to be wanting revenge or hating anyone!
YOur life should be having fun and learning to be a great person that knows how to talk to ALL people, (we don't do prejudice of any kind, it's worthless, mean and we don't want to be like hitler do we?)
 It is NOT good to hold in anything that makes you mad....ANYTHING!!
You always have the option to talk to someone. 
I think God made friends and the universe brings you friends so that if you don't like your therapist, counselor or teacher, you have someone else to talk to.
I know, most people have their mom or dad or siblings but we usually don't have them easily available if were in a group home OR they are "dysfunctional", (meaning they are not mentally able to help you right now because they are not able to make good decisions).
Find someone who has GOOD, clear logic--they can make good decisions and you know because they are living a good, healthy life, that you would like to have one day!

You are always loved and highly favored. Smile and be kind to EVERYONE, (yes, even the jerk), you are going to save, change or help a life today!!! Go gettem!!!
XO Tanya