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July 2, 2011

words from Wallace D. Wattles -Efficient Action

Hi blog family!
 I know, summer has been fun...are you reading? writing in your journal...
. i am sharing this from another site- the orginator of the secret left a great book!
it is LIFE CHANGING if you read it and follow it!! We must learn to better ourselves, if we want success! xo Tanya


YOU must use your thought as directed in previous chapters, and begin to do what you can do where you are; and you must do ALL that you can do where you are.
You can advance only by being larger than your present place; and no man is larger than his present place who leaves undone any of the work pertaining to that place.
The world is advanced only by those who more than fill their present places.
If no man quite filled his present place, you can see that there must be a going backward in everything. Those who do not quite fill their present places are dead weight upon society, government, commerce, and industry; they must be carried along by others at a great expense. The progress of the world is retarded only by those who do not fill the places they are holding; they belong to a former age and a lower stage or plane of life, and their tendency is toward degeneration. No society could advance if every man was smaller than his place; social evolution is guided by the law of physical and mental evolution. In the animal world, evolution is caused by excess of life.
When an organism has more life than can be expressed in the functions of its own plane, it develops the organs of a higher plane, and a new species is originated.
There never would have been new species had there not been organisms which more than filled their places. The law is exactly the same for you; your getting rich depends upon your applying this principle to your own affairs.
Every day is either a successful day or a day of failure; and it is the successful days which get you what you want. If everyday is a failure, you can never get rich; while if every day is a success, you cannot fail to get rich.
If there is something that may be done today, and you do not do it, you have failed in so far as that thing is concerned; and the consequences may be more disastrous than you imagine.
You cannot foresee the results of even the most trivial act; you do not know the workings of all the forces that have been set moving in your behalf. Much may be depending on your doing some simple act; it may be the very thing which is to open the door of opportunity to very great possibilities. You can never know all the combinations which Supreme Intelligence is making for you in the world of things and of things and of human affairs; your neglect or failure to do some small thing may cause a long delay in getting what you want.
Do, every day, ALL that can be done that day.
There is, however, a limitation or qualification of the above that you must take into account.
You are not to overwork, nor to rush blindly into your business in the effort to do the greatest possible number of things in the shortest possible time.
You are not to try to do tomorrow's work today, nor to do a week's work in a day.
It is really not the number of things you do, but the EFFICIENCY of each separate action that counts.
Every act is, in itself, either a success or a failure.
Every act is, in itself, either effective or inefficient.
Every inefficient act is a failure, and if you spend your life in doing inefficient acts, your whole life will be a failure.
The more things you do, the worse for you, if all your acts are inefficient ones.
On the other hand, every efficient act is a success in itself, and if every act of your life is an efficient one, your whole life MUST be a success.
The cause of failure is doing too many things in an inefficient manner, and not doing enough things in an efficient manner.
You will see that it is a self-evident proposition that if you do not do any inefficient acts, and if you do a sufficient number of efficient acts, you will become rich. If, now, it is possible for you to make each act an efficient one, you see again that the getting of riches is reduced to an exact science, like mathematics.
The matter turns, then, on the questions whether you can make each separate act a success in itself. And this you can certainly do.
You can make each act a success, because ALL Power is working with you; and ALL Power cannot fail.
Power is at your service; and to make each act efficient you have only to put power into it.
Every action is either strong or weak; and when every one is strong, you are acting in the Certain Way which will make you rich.
Every act can be made strong and efficient by holding your vision while you are doing it, and putting the whole power of your FAITH and PURPOSE into it.
It is at this point that the people fail who separate mental power from personal action. They use the power of mind in one place and at one time, and they act in another place and at another time. So their acts are not successful in themselves; too many of them are inefficient. But if ALL Power goes into every act, no matter how commonplace, every act will be a success in itself; and as in the nature of things every success opens the way to other successes, your progress toward what you want, and the progress of what you want toward you, will become increasingly rapid.
Remember that successful action is cumulative in its results. Since the desire for more life is inherent in all things, when a man begins to move toward larger life more things attach themselves to him, and the influence of his desire is multiplied.
Do, every day, all that you can do that day, and do each act in an efficient manner.
In saying that you must hold your vision while you are doing each act, however trivial or commonplace, I do not mean to say that it is necessary at all times to see the vision distinctly to its smallest details. It should be the work of your leisure hours to use your imagination on the details of your vision, and to contemplate them until they are firmly fixed upon memory. If you wish speedy results, spend practically all your spare time in this practice.
By continuous contemplation you will get the picture of what you want, even to the smallest details, so firmly fixed upon your mind, and so completely transferred to the mind of Formless Substance, that in your working hours you need only to mentally refer to the picture to stimulate your faith and purpose, and cause your best effort to be put forth. Contemplate your picture in your leisure hours until your consciousness is so full of it that you can grasp it instantly. You will become so enthused with its bright promises that the mere thought of it will call forth the strongest energies of your whole being.
Let us again repeat our syllabus, and by slightly changing the closing statements bring it to the point we have now reached.
There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe.
A thought, in this substance, Produces the thing that is imaged by the thought.
Man can form things in his thought, and, by impressing his thought upon formless substance, can cause the thing he thinks about to be created.
In order to do this, man must pass from the competitive to the creative mind; he must form a clear mental picture of the things he wants, and do, with faith and purpose, all that can be done each day, doing each separate thing in an efficient manner.

March 21, 2011

you are blessed

Hi blog family!
Glad you are going to school, doing your homework and asking for help when you need it!

The earthquake in Japan should be one of many reasons you should be thankful not only for your life, but that you have choices! 
Pray for the kids that are now "orphaned" because of this earthquake.
Be thankful for what you DO have in your life NOW!!
 Every day is a new one that YOU COULD, do ANYTHING, you choose, if you study hard, stay away from drugs, negative people, places & things AND be grateful for what you do have!!
You are blessed SO much and you will bless others with your, smile, your gift, your talent and your tenacity to live your best life!
 keep on moving, don't stop (british group, Soul 2 Soul).. lol...
you are loved, special and needed by the universe,
stay in your king and queeen position-no one can dethrone you!
!! xo Tanya

March 12, 2011

praying for japan

hi blog family!
I hope school is going well!

pray for Japan and all the other Countries/places that had catastrophic events. You must always meditate harder for others than yourself- it takes your mind off of your problems when you help others!!! Remember when it comes to catastrophy's, drugs and life--their is no discrimination so we must ALL come togeather for the sake of this earth.
Hold Japan in the light (pray) (meditate)- whatever your preference but think of those in need today, and worry about you another time. 
Please pray for any kids left in the orphanages there, pray that those who make it are resilant, and hold on until rescue comes. 

Man thinks he is smarter than God or the Universe- it can never be and we will see many more things happen that NO ONE has control over! The lesson will be for ALL of us to come togeather, or destroy one another!
Remember the earth will always be here, we are the ones that will vanish or change form if man does not stop thinking he is creator...We all have divine purpose, what is yours, what legacy do you want to leave if you died today?? think, meditate and take action-today!

if you have food, shelter & health - you should be praising the universe/God for letting you rise one more day without incident. 
You can show you are grateful by helping others- that can be with a smile, deed, check or prayer! xo
Tanya

February 22, 2011

energy equals energy

hey blog family!
I know its been a minute-i am trying to get this book out for you!! soon!
In the meantime- i hope you are doing good in school and if you was not, you are trying to get better grades, meet better friends and be a better person.

Remember what i said about energy? how you feel? it determines if your going to have a good day or not by how you "feel"..i want you to keep feeling" like you won $1million dollars!! You can attract more to you if you are smiling and feeling good-no one wants to give to a unhappy face or a nasty person...your lesson for the day...."feel" like you won $1million dollars!! even when you wake up-stop complaining its too early- its never to early to enjoy life!! Be glad you got up...somebody did not wake up this morning!!

I lost my baby brother but him and I always woke with cheer because we knew, tommorrow is NOT promised-so what you do while you are here: who you help, who you are kind to, how good you are to yourself and your body-all matters!!! You are KING and QUEEN and we need you to change this universe! Go out smiling and shinning superstar!!! xo Tanya

February 13, 2011

politics-what can you do

Hi blog family!
I hope your report cards showed great grades or great progress. I hope you are getting the tutor you need or staying at lunch at the resource center. I hope that you are able to talk with your counselor about any issues you are having in school.
It is your world-you have the right to get the help you need!!
Remember you can always google ANYTHING you don't know the answer to-i am sure it will lead you to an answer or mighty close!!

I read that Egypt has a victory- all the young people that got togeather and caused such a rukus that president Mubarak resigned- after 29 years-3 decades of ruling!!!
This man would not let the people have their say, he put many people in jail during his reign.

I am glad he is kicked out because he imprisioned a family friend for speaking his mind and now thanks to the youth movement, he is going back home to Eygpt-after years of living in exhile!!! HOORAY for youth that standup and take action!!!!
 can you imagine the power of the people-when they get togeather for a cause-to vote for whom they want and not a rigged election?? You should take notes and remember that YOU do make a difference and TOGEATHER- we can all make a change!! You should know this is why you should vote when you are 18..start researching now..google or talk to a political science teacher to start a club on awareness-(just be careful that the teacher is not ignorant -you will know if sound one sided..not giving all the facts from both sides....

I don't want you to get crazy over politics but i do want you to know what is happening, here and in other countrys-why? Because and informed person is able to make wiser decisions!!! 

Don't sleep on ANYONE-including a politician- always do your homework- google what you need to know and IF you can find someone close to that topic- interview them on a friendly note to get an opinion from someone who was there or is doing "that"... (maybe you have a friend at school who has family in that country? talk to them lightly, who what when where and why?? always ask about your friends culture if it is different than yours-this is how you learn!!)

We need you to be thinking of our future and how to make it better.
 I suggest you go to college to be a juge, lawyer, president, doctor, some field where YOU will call all the shots!! 
If you happen to end up in a job like most of us---still use your voice to make change but whatever you do- don't become a complainer like most of us "this aint fare- that's not right etc.."these are usually people who never vote and say "it aint gonna matter if I vote"- how crazy is that!

 My foster mother, along with Doctor King, Malcom X, and many others, gave their lives SO that YOU could VOTE and say what you wanted...without being lynched-and now we repay our ancestors by NOT voting--that makes no sense!!

Get involved and wake up, you are being put to sleep with many other problems, (that don't have to be) gangs, violence on each other, "weed" aka cronic", babies, lazyness-----


WAKEUP YOUNGINS!!!!! ITS YOUR TIME TO SHINE!!!
The founder of the 80's group CHIC-NILE ROGERS CREATED A SAYING: STAND FOR SOMETHING OR FALL FOR ANYTHING!! It applys to anything!!!
 get up get out and do something IF its that bad, if not, live your life and deal with what you get when you don't speak up- leftovers...

Your voice is powerful and the media plays a part (all those dumb shows that make YOU think its ok to be drunk 24/7, all the shows that make YOU think its ok to have a baby at 15....
all those shows that make YOU think a big but and no clothes is ok to get what you want- WAKE UP!! start using the brain you were given, read more, talk less and please stop watching TV-until you understand you and your purpose!
You are loved and needed by this universe-get going, we are counting on you!!!
xo Tanya

January 27, 2011

i wish i could syndrome

hi blog family!!

its a new day!! what are you up to?? Exams were crazy--but u  did it!!:) I am proud of you!! You are a winner!!

are you:
sitting around waiting for your dreams to happen? This can only happen if you know what it is and how to plan for it...then how to execute!

sitting around wishing you could look 50 lbs lighter...but not excersizing or changing your eating habits?

wishing you had a mate..but sitting on the couch, never going anywhere to be seen or meet new people?
wishing you were successful...but not doing anything that will manifest this success?

thinking of leaving that abusive partner, but never leave, even with support..because you don't think your worth it or no one will want you? this is a hard one because you do what you have to do to survive when you are in an abusive relationship-especially when there are kids BUT i say to you..if you can get to "my sisters place or any domestic violence shelter- go and start over..your life and your kids are worth it!! You may be able to turn this experience around by writing a journal/book and helping other woman..keep faith, and take action as soon as your spirit tells u to leave!

I had the "I wish I could" syndrome for years. It is going to keep you in the same place! You must realize your greatness and get up, get out and do something, as Macy gray use to sing! Nothing in this life is coming easy...even illnesses take some work like eating bad food, not seeing a doctor...etc... Nothing in this life good or bad, comes to you, you must go get the good you want in life!!!
If you want to change your negative kids thinking--think positive-live positive- talk positive--they will follow the leader- YOU!!
If you want a mate. get out to the museums, borders, gallery's... he/she cannot find you if you home!

if you want success. start planning what does that mean, what does it take for your goal, what do you need, who do you need for a mentor? how long..does not matter if you do not give up...

Stay focused and try new things this year, the universe is waiting for your success!! There is plenty for all of us, find out what gifts you have that will make you stand out...xo Tanya

January 10, 2011

where there is ice clean off your window

the new year is here. The snow has fallen, the ice has harbored on your windown long enough. As you watch them fall from the sun, remember this is good- natures way of cleaning what we don't need--and can be dangerous to someone walking by when the ice falls!!
 Use this metaphor for your life, its a new day, prepare for a greater future by planning, going to school, choosing good friends and finding a mentor that will lead you in the right direction...
these icyles are pretty but don't let them fool you, they will melt and fall... stay focused and prepared and plan before the universe plans for you xo Tanya

January 4, 2011

what will I need to get to my greatness?



Hi blog family!
back to school.
 I know its hard..but you are doing it!! stay strong and postive.
 Have you ever wanted something so bad but you just keep NOT getting it? $, fame, cars, friends, jobs, skills, clothes, life style, career, (ie..doctor, judge)..talent....

I say to you ask yourself why do you want it?
Do you need it or just want it to feel great or look great or be great?
 if its the last,,go for it!.
For instance if you wanted to be popular in school...not so great UNLESS it was so you could help teach/show other unpopular kids its not so hard.
The cause of why you do it is very important because if it is a good reason...you will keep trying until the very end-even when others discourage you.
At the end of our lives you want to be remembered for the good you did or who you helped, saved or changed, not by the outfits you wore or the people you hung with or the house you lived in! When you think of wanting something so bad, ( trying to be a doctor one day or a singer or a bball player, math teacher), think of why you are doing it, is it for the love or for the fame....

keep all your dreams alive, daily by writing them down and looking at them everyday..visualization very important!
you are young but remember your never too young to leave a legacy--while your alive so do ALL things with GOOD intention and purpose-because this is what you will be remembered by!
 xo Tanya

December 31, 2010

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Happy New year to you all blog family!


What time is it?


Time for reflection, 
time to move forward, 
not backward, 
time to heal old wounds 
time t recover from the storms losses. 
Time, 
Time,
 Your time to shine
Make a plan,
 write it down
breath it,
live it!


* be blessed for the new year and let no one bring you down, stay focused, positive and alert to all things good!

by:  xo Tanya

December 16, 2010

Statitstics on foster kids

WARNING: this does NOT have to be you!!


Today there are nearly 500,000 children and youth in America's foster care system.


 As the economy has worsened, reports of abuse and neglect have increased in some areas of the country and are expected to rise. 
Of the 26,000 young people who age out of foster care each year, many end up facing life's challenges alone without the support and education they need to compete in the workplace. In this economy, they are more likely than ever to endure homelessness, poverty, compromised health, unemployment, incarceration and other adversities.


why am i showing you these statistics? Because you always need to hear the truth! You can make sure this is not you or no longer you by
Setting & Planning your goals..what do I want to do with my life, how, why, when??
2. GO to SCHOOL as long as you can! education is key to success and OPTIONS--life is all about how many options you make or have! I know people with degree's from top schools can't find work--yea but if they use their brain they can make legal money...starting their own business...etc...
3. stay away from anyone negative. avoid them at all cost--you have no time to go to jail, hospital or the morgue! You have divine purpose and need to stay focused so that you can help others like yourself one day... 
4. save any money you get, for a rainy day!! if you get $5 save 2 of that, put it away and forget about it untile you have a few thousand saved...enough to have security money to move if you needed it! There is nothing like knowing you have money when you really need it!
5. keep choosing good friends who are useful to you and you can be useful to them, like an extended family! When times are ruff, your real friends will help you out any way they can because they know you are a good person and you would do the same. value your good friends like family..
6. never give up on you! you may fall down time and time again but keep going until you get your life the way YOU want it to be; place to live, good friends, traveling, eating healthy, enjoying each day, helping others, doing what you was put here to do (help others through : painting, dance, sing, writing, counseling, teaching, whatever your purpose you have one it it is only for you! Know that the universe loves you and you are the most special person in the world! xo 
Tanya
ps. don't let the economy being down, get you down, stay on your A game, stay happy even if your "broke", because you know your ploting how to get unbroke! Don't ever sit around being sad,
 think positive and do postive and positive will come -you don't ever listen to a statistic, they always change but you know who you are and where your going come! xo

December 6, 2010

The search is on for foster families



Hi blog family!

I saw an article today with this headline: "The Search is on for foster families. The article states that they are trying to take foster kids who was taken out of their homes in an emergency and put into temporary shelters- and place them with family's. THey say this will save their city millions of dollars a year....

I am not going to co-sign yet! Why not?
 Because everything that sounds good, may not be.
#1 we know (and I talk about it in my book), a constructive foster home is always better than a group home. Constuctive meaning all family members are functional, non abusive and the foster child is not being played for money or treated 2nd class...yes, we know this happens from time to time.
#2 Some foster homes are too crowded with too many kids and you don't get the attention you need, so you may act out....when there are too many kids and not enough adults per 2 kids, you might as well be placed in a group home! I never liked people having 10 foster kids (none related) and all ages ...you have to be careful if they came from an abusive home, they may act out on younger children...I know-I was one of them!

#3 I also don't think a child should ever have to go back to a home (if they choose) that physically or sexually abused them---they had there chance to love and protect you and they messed up, why should you suffer, or be reminded or learn their behavior? You deserve only the best don't feel sorry, or sad, just change your thinking and know that you don't need people around that don't treat you like the king or queen you are!! including family!!! I always  tell you- that is why we have "friends"-you choose them, if you do it right they are just as good if not better than "a family" that abused you...
when it comes to pysical abuse - If you choose to go back home- so be it, but sexual assault on any child is the only act  not forgiveable or forgetful in my book...forgiveness??NOT - and neither should you (forgive in your heart if they ask but that does not mean hang out or live togeather or even eat togeather...
again I always talk to you with truth..and you should read and know I only have your best intentions at heart.
If I ever say anything confusing, talk to a counselor, show them the blog and let them explain. I want you to release any anger you have for your past family, past abusers, foster care. I want you to start healing your mind from abandonment.  Read, meditate and learn to love people...you need extra love and concern...it's out there..

What can you as a foster child do? 
protect your future and educate your mind--stay in school!!!
I am in my 40's and things have changed a little, (more allowance, in care less time, workers who actually care and help, workers who have bosses and board members who want to advocate change...

there is change BUT we know fostering will always be about $$$$ and paperwork.
Not on a negative note but you need to understand the hard truth...nothing worthwhile is free!! So with that in mind I want you to stay focused only on you, your goals and how to achieve them and who can help you achieve them.
Life deals us all odd cards--play anyway..good thing is you never loose...if you keep playing. work on how to be a better you and how to make a difference in the world with your talent.

When you see articles like this or news headlines you won't care because you know, you are making a difference in you, and if you become an independent, contributor to this society (stay out of trouble, no rehabilitation, jail, morgue...etc...), then you have done a great job!!!
You are King and Queen, get your education so that you may take your thrown and rule!!! xo Tanya

December 1, 2010

feeing down?


Soc Le Cour (this is the top of Paris, once you climb those stairs and look down you feel like you are on top of the world--YOU ARE--everyday if you believe it!!!
hi blog family!!!
I know the holidays are among us and this is a hard time for anyone without family OR anyone who did not get the holiday love and peace they deserved as a child. THis is a time where many take their own lives or may do more drugs or high risk behavior things. 
I write to you today to encourage you to stay strong and know that YOU have divine purpose!! Yes, I say it often but i say it in truth. How do I know?
 How could you be so divine with so many problems to face in this life?? YOU are human and we are all here on this earth to experience ALL elements of this earth, love, joy, pain, excitement, family, whatever--each of us have our own map to follow. 
For you NOT to be depressed, you have to erase the word from your vocabulary...use another like..i am feeling so challenged today.
 Don't allow negative words or people in your life...even if it means being alone until you find new friends, mates or family substitutes!!

Life is hard but don't take it personal--we all go through something at sometime!!! 
The universe does not pick on one person, it has lessons, great, ugly and bad for ALL of us!! 

How you work through them or learn from them is the divine part, this will tell you how much charector you have or will have! You cannot get charector without going through something!!

 You must always believe that feeling down is only temporary--even slaves and those in the holocaust found  a second to laugh or smile at something...don't dwell on what you cannot change and if you can change it--get to work!!! 
You are needed for our future to be brighter!!:
someone would not be here without you!
 Someone would die,
 cry 
or kill without you in their lives, 
 do matter most-don't forget it and spread love to someone today, 
call a friend that comforts you
When all else fails and you have no one look to the sky and tell the universe "thanks for my life, no matter where i am at" because i have life, i can always get more, do more and be more...
xo Tanya

I thank the universe for you, because you are reading my blog which means I am doing something right...smile, we all love you and know you are important to the universe!!

November 29, 2010

Giving back, making money and not thinking you are entitled

Hi blog family! I hope your thanks- give- ing was good!
 I spent mine giving and then eating! 

 you must learn to give back BEFORE you celebrate turkey day and xmas... give food, gloves, old sneakers or clothes to the homelss. When you live in a group home You are less likely to have active parents to teach you about giving and how not to take advantage of something...
You need to see and feel why you should be thankful...not just for your life but quality of life, if you are reading this blog and in a group home--you are blessed to have a computer!! 
You can see and you have your brain or you would not be on this site!!
 The universe needs you to use your gifts and talent...you will find out what that is as you get older (some of you know) singing, dancing sports, writing, poetry, drawing etc...

On another note: I know usually after leaving foster care many will end up needing section 8 or DSS (welfare). You are still young to let this NOT be your destiny!
I want to challenge you
If your  family was on welfare before you went into care.....be working toward a goal to become independent of it- to never need it! (learn to save your $, have two jobs)...
I don't think welfare  will be here forever.
 If you age out of foster care and you need it--you should utilize it IF you NEED it and cannot find a job but know that you still need to keep looking and thinking of ways to get income so that you won't need it! Don't ever want something for free all the time--it is addictive and you will start to feel you are entitled..or derserve it! Welfare was sopose to be created for families who just lost a job or a mate or had a medical bill that put them in the poor house..it was to be used to "assist" a family on getting back on their feet not "permently aide them for the rest of their lives...You are never to young to learn what NOT to do!!

Often adults get caught in a traditional cycle-and teach their kids the same-(grandma was on public assistance,mom, so i will too or they pass thier section 8 apartment to the kids..)... 

there are times when fate happens...an accident that put you out of work, 
sudden death of spouse, 
family financial tragedy)..when you will have to go to get help with heat, (heap), food, or medical--that is ok, but if you are expecting it because you aged out of foster care....that is not the mentality you want. 
why? 
because if you think you "deserve" it "forever" then you will always be dependent on it-forever!
Start thinking of it as a temparary solution only and think of ways to get off....as you get older...
start making jewelry, 
teach your  language to college kids or foreigners,
 babysit...
clean houses/apts (all you need to start is cleaning supply's and references)
you know how to hussle if you grew up in foster care! and I don't mean selling illegal things...i mean hussle like "creative  new income" for yourself that is legit.
At your teenage years now. you could rake neighboors yard, walk dogs, clean up yards, you can always make legit money IF you do something or make something people NEED.. 
 Later as you get older, If you speak any language well, you can teach english...put an add up at a local college...if you make earrings, bring them to all the hair salons you know...craft fairs...you can always make money--IF you have something people need or want!!
 Use your brain power--people who grew up in foster care have extra--that's how we survived!! look at the show shark tank....these are people figuring out how to generate extra income or create a career for themselves--being their own boss. You can do it--anything you put your mind to it but you have to start thinking out of the box!! You are young, gifted and an asset to this earth, keep a good positive spirit and you will be blessed!
smile someone is watching you!!
xo Tanya

November 21, 2010

negative media



hi blog family!
I hope you are having a great weekend!!
I read an article on NILA website talking about the condition of young black males-that they are in a bad way basically.
I want to tell you...stop letting ANYONe or any MEDIA put bad ideologies (things) in your head!! You are not in a crises physically it's mentally!! why? because we have allowed the media to judge us, tell us what is or is not good for us and what we do--we forgot- you are it.

Make no mistake there is no "problem with the black male eccept--he is allowing everyone to define him but himself! If you are a black male reading please know that your history says you were king. News flash...YOU STILL ARE KING!!"
 all men are created equal"
you have been told lies that "most" of you rob, quit school, in jail, steal, abandon family--and now the false wording that the media put on you is appearing to come true because that is all they show of you!
This is why I get ticked off at the lil waynes/nicky minage or any artist that promotes blacks as funny charectors rather than a people who come from a great lineage of kings and queens--but they won't tell you that--that is why you have to do your own research!!

 All people are great but we are only told about certain cultures or religions as to keep those in the limelight and portrayed as good- don't get it twisted we are equally great--all of us!! latino, polish, black, jew muslim, christian, ALL-
Everyone has divine purpose as I always say and you are no ecception!
WHen you hear negative things in the media about black men blow it off and know they are only talking about a few not all and they definatley are not talking about you becasue you are handling your business of being number one and enjoying this life!
You are king and should laugh when anyone tells you different... keep reigning but keep doing what you have to do to take back your kingdom--especially your mental kingsom!!
go to school to be: lawyers, doctors, engineers, scientist...kings creat solutions for the universe, they cannot be self centered or small thinkers, they think out the box--don't sell on a corner or sell your soul--you are king!!

keep your heads up you are not "extinct" you are in need of a new mental attitude!! wake-up!! Tanya
and anyone else this applies to you-you must think the highest of yourself-even in foster care!!

November 19, 2010

assignment for you



Hi blog family!!

I hope school is good, new friends, chances, new life.. I hope you are being the King or Queen you are...(not dragging lol...):) jk...

Your only job today is to go out into the big bold beautiful world smiling and "feeling" good!

 If you "feel" good good things will happen (so says the secret and me, i tried it)... how you feel determines how your day will go!
Please try feeling good today--no matter what obsticles come in your way--it works -your energy level rises and you feel like you won $1million dollars--and about to go get it---keep that feeling....

.have a great day!!
xo Tanya

November 18, 2010

what is your biggest fear after foster care?

hi blog family!
What will be your biggest fear after you leave foster care?  
NONE!
yes, because you are doing what you need to now to secure your future.
 Going to classes,
 getting a tutor if needed,
 staying away from knucklehead people,
 evil people, violent people,
you are only surrounding yourself with people who value you and help you become BETTER and enjoy life!
You are staying away from drugs and drinking because you know foster kids cannot afford-mentally or financially to "get high" - you know that you need all your brain cells to make good decisions and that ONE bad one-can change your life-forever..jail, rehab, gang, morgue..... 
I know you are saving money when you get your allowance-because you know in a few years when you leave--all those $5 you saved up for the last few years will turn into a couple of thousand--enough for you to give security money and one months rent or two months for a room!

You have no fears about being without a home--because you are planning and plotting your great future that will be full of adventure, fund, money, helping others and making things happen!!!
You are not waiting for anyone to "save" you because you know--you are the hero and the world is waiting for you to save it!!!
stay on your grind-stay focused and keep reading any self help books you find!!!
the world is yours--go get it!
 peace xo Tanya

November 16, 2010

remembering you are the HERO

Hi blog family!
I was reading an article today from Massachusettes stating they are behind and tyring to change foster care. OMG....some things never change!! and some take forever-we don't have time kids are dying!

HELLO! WHen will we all wake up? How many children have to become cutters, commit crimes, go to rehabilitation or the morgue? NONE!

I have been saying for years to anyone working with foster kids- TEACH KIDS THAT THEY ARE THERE OWN HERO'S! 
States are spending tons of money asking people who never went through the system or any situation without parents-how to fix it!
Does that make sense? I am begging all in charge to start hiring us - former foster kids like myself, who now consult with agencies, foster parents, attorneys. You will get the edge and save lots of money.
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For my teens- I want you to start paying attention to EVERYTHING you do!
Getting to classes on time,
doing your homework,
 staying after for help when you need it,
asking for advice or help when you need it,
how you choose your friends..that go to class and do NOT get high or drink...
All of this is what really matters in the end.
You make you bed and only you will lie in it.  You can be happy now--not later--now!!think it create it- do it!!! open your bank account now--even if you can only put $1 a week!! Now - now!!
Don't listen to adults who complain that their life sucks--they did or did not do something to contribute to this poor, unhappy life!
If you ask anyone--including myself-any mishaps that I had in life--I take responsiblity for them because I had CHOICE and FREEDOM to chose--and chose wrong...
If you want a quality life with money, success, good friends, your own family and to be a productive memeber to society--YOU have to start PLANNING NOW!!! EVERYTHING YOU DO-NO MATTER HOW BIG OR SMALL-WILL BE AN INVESTMENT IN YOUR FUTURE OR A MAGNET TO KEEP YOU IN THE PAST...THE PAST OF BEING: broke, homeless, no friends, bad grades, labeled troublemaker...whatever...YOU put the titles on YOU by taking action to make a better future.
The next time a friend wants to drink or do something you know is wrong, ask yourself, will this effect my life in any way bad--if it does--you know what to do!!!
I write this blog in hopes that one kid will read something encouraging. you can write back you know..xo smile, someone younger is watching and you need to be a good example...you are the best! Tanya
ps. get off the computer so much (accept when you read my blog) and read a book, never forget how to spell or read a hand held book, what will you do if your computer is down??? read, get up get out and do something to challenge your life!!!
take a hike, walk, play a guitar, ride a bike, rollerblade, bowling, do something different, play lacross, tennis....something...don't stand in your little box, it only becomes smaller as you get older, step out and challenge yourself TODAY!!!

November 10, 2010

What role does a parent played in our lives

hi blog family!

I know it is hard being in care, especially if you were taken from your parents, they died or they gave you away.
I have good news for you that should help you get through it!

YOUR PARENTS ONLY JOB SOMETIMES--IS TO GET YOU HERE!
yes, you heard me right. not all parents were meant to raise the children they birth. Why? Because the universe has many good people waiting to help you in your life journey. You must always remember this life is not about YOU, it's about WHAT you do to save or change a life. 
You were born with a gift that no one else has. You were born to keep someone else from dying or being sad. You were born to find a cure for cancer, AIDS. You were born for a reason!

Now that you know this-live your life EVERY day thinking: what is my mission TODAY to find out what my gifts are AND how can I help save or change a life today?
Your problems always seem smaller when you are helping others. Life has many challenges-but you must face them with your head high and walk proud because the universe needs you and someone needs your help- who are you going to help while helping yourself become the great star that you are? Go out into the world each day shinning like a star! You have divine purpose xo Tanya

November 7, 2010

teachers can't teach or you need help?

Hi blog family!

just wanted to remind you: not all teachers can teach! 
Sometimes you may get a teacher (or a counselor) who is not really about change and may be scared of change- so they will not come across the right way to you- which means you may not do well in their class or with that counselor.
You should still always be respectful of these types of people-they are in a position of power (to give you an F or  with a councelor to not give you your allowance):( but :)
I can tell you what you can do if you get a bad communicator...(that means a bad teacher you don't understand or a counselor you don't get along with or they think wrong of you)-(without a reason..like u were acting up or acting out..)...
follow me...i know u can because you are the smartest thing on earth!!
if i say something to you 2 things happen: 1. you understand 2. you don't understand
when you are in a class with too many kids, not enough books, loud kids talking when the teacher is talking, teacher is soft spoken, teacher is reading from a book (instead of teaching you in a way YOU can learn (with pictures or examples)...MIS COMM UN I CATION!!! The #1 reason people are not understood or don't get a message being sent!
they don't understand how you learn or operate and YOU don't understand what they said or how to apply it to YOUR life!!! 

If you can get the teacher or counselor to see WHY you don't understand or agree with them--then you can start over.
 Let them know they are going too fast, they are being unfair, the information is too long or not clear--but let them know in a CAREfrontational - *that word was taken from my clinician professor- Dr. Harris Straytner:)
 (not accusing but concern):) no one wants to be told they are not doing a good job so find a way to say it that puts blame on both of you: " excuse me mr. x, I feel that every time you talk to me, it''s bad and you never tell me my good points, what can I do to get a kind word from you, change my behavior? am I too agressive/loud/....
If it is a teacher: excuse me mrs x. I do not understand what your teaching because you are going too fast or i cant visualize the formula to put it on paper, or i may need help, what should i do?

THe point is let them know what you need to understand-and sometimes  they may convince you to stay in the class-even if your failing--don't!!- ask someone to help you get out and start fresh..... ONLY if you know you are failing because your teacher if not effectivly teaching NOT because you have a learning disablity or your not trying.. (that would mean you need special education help-and that is good if you know early)..if you are not trying--try harder-get a tutor!!!
when dealing with difficult people-know that you are always in charge (by what you do), dont yell, be mean, act ignorant, stand tall, get help from a good counselor that can speak up for you.
 Most important: apply yourself--do all YOU can to get a lesson from a class or a person!!

 if you know you need help in a subject-get it now-don't wait until your in senior year and then cannot graduate because you let it go... switch class or get help as soon as you spot a problem and don't be ashamed-be in charge!

Remember: communication is everything when it comes to dealing with anyone for anything. hit me if you need me xo Tanya

November 5, 2010

how was your day

hi blog family!

i know school is going great and you are choosing good friends who are active in life, sports and have a goal in life!

 I was talking to a young man in jail-he is only 18!!! he is suppose to be going off to college, traveling the world to discover new things-not behind bars.
He admitted that he could have chosen better options-but chose to hang around knuckle heads who wanted to stand on corners and chase easy dirty paper! (chasing dirty paper only gets you 5 choices: jail,enemy's, injury (from all the gunfire)...addiction and death! Not good options for a person like you that is going places better than your parents!!!
He admitted that he use to be an A student but at some point because of his home life-he gave in to the pressures of the street. I was sad when he told me this because I can say-he is not no "criminal"- he just got caught up in the streets.
I tell you all this so that you know why you SHOULD NOT get caught up in the streets-unless you are out there promoting your new mix tape (because you rap or sing) OR unless you are feeding the homeless OR working for a runaway shelter and looking for teens who need a warm bed for the night!! Amel Laureux summed it up in her song: "The streets can't love you --please YouTube the lyrics... you were born into this cold world...(look it up:))

you are to love and respect yourself most: that means not putting drugs in your body, hurting yourself or others,  smoking cigs, having boy or girl friends who use you or treat you like garbage!
You are  here for a divine purpose-remember??
You was born for a reason and remember i always tell you my biggest lesson learned after foster care and becoming a mother: YOUR parents were only a vehicle to get you here! Some will ride us through life-others will leave or be taken instantly--you are here..it is no accident!!
 Those of us in foster care will have other angels that will help us learn and share whatever our divine purpose is...to help, save or change a life...
You must remember there is NO ONE like YOU!!! You are the KING and QUEEN of the universe- with that in mind---get your education, learn what makes you special and how to help others...

you do not have time for jail or any negative situation so make wise choices EVERYDAY you walk out your door!!
If you are confused on why your here -write me- i will explain and if i cannot talk to a counselor or tell them to write me, there are always answers- you just have to ask the question until you hear the answer!
I am signing off for now but know that you are loved and the universe needs you, so get your education and start finding a cure for AIDS or cancer please--peace Tanya